Blending Families: A Difficult Task


By DivorcePlus Staff Editor February 21, 2024

The main reason why blended families can be difficult is that everyone in the family needs time to get used to each other. Also, children may resist a new step-parent while parents may find it difficult to balance love for their ex-spouse’s children with those from previous relationship.

Further still, it may be quite challenging coming up with new schedules for the household or deciding on roles within the family structure. Failure to openly address issues like different disciplinary techniques and financial responsibilities could lead to disagreements among family members. This merging process takes time, effort and effective communication to overcome these barriers and strengthen unity.

Are There Drawbacks of Blended Family?

Despite providing opportunities for love and personal growth, blended families have certain disadvantages as well. Among them include higher levels of stress and tension within the home due to conflicting loyalties or unresolved matters from former relationships or distinct parenting styles.

Moreover, kids in blend family can sometimes feel confused by their new lives having mixed feelings or getting insecure about themselves. They may also undergo identity crisis especially if they do not know which home they belong most between two homes. In addition managing visitations’ timetable or meeting financial obligations could add complexity to blended family life.

How Long Do Blended Families Last?

Blended families’ duration varies significantly depending on several factors such as individuals involved as well as their commitment towards making them last. On one hand there are some blended families which make great progress by developing strong bonds that last long while on other hand there are some who face insurmountable problems leading to breakup.

Studies show that blended families are more prone to divorce as compared to first marriages partly due to increased stressors and complications. However, with commitment, patience and readiness to seek assistance when needed blended families can stand the test of time.

Who Adjusts Least Well in a Blended Family?

Everyone in a new marriage can find it difficult adjusting but there are those who may have a harder time than others. In particular, children often face many challenges in transitioning from single-parent homes into blended ones. They could have problems taking on a step-parent or step-siblings especially if they believe their biological parent’s love is at stake.

Step parents too face their own unique challenges as they try to bond with their step kids without interfering with each other’s roles. Finally, with regard to the biological parents, it can be hard balancing between ex-spouse’s visits for children and the demands of his/her new spouse and her children.

What Stepparents Should NOT Do

Stepparents’ involvement in blended family dynamics is important, but there are certain things they need to avoid to make the change smoother and foster positive relationships within the home. Firstly, stepparents should desist from attempting to replace the biological parent of the child. Instead, they must look forward to a supportive and nurturing relationship based on trust and mutual respect.

Secondly, stepparents should not make decisions regarding discipline or parenting matters without involving their spouse and respecting the desires of the biological parent alone. Good communication skills and cooperation are instrumental in blending parental challenges.

In conclusion, blending families requires patience, empathy, and a willingness to work through challenges together. Though difficult at times, creating a loving and supportive family is worth everything. Therefore, by appreciating difficulties associated with blended families as well as facing them with understanding and resiliency, families can overcome barriers to forming enduring bonds that last for ages.

If you need additional guidance on how to navigate complexities of separation or divorce as well as living in mixed stepfamilies you may want seek help from DivorcePlus. Take advantage of their wide range of services that include divorce coaching for your own self-development towards healing along with family growth journey.”

References:

Lisa   Zeleznikow  &  John   Zeleznikow   (2015)   Supporting Blended Families to Remain Intact: A Case Study,   Journal of Divorce & Remarriage,   56:4,   317-335,   DOI:  10.1080/10502556.2015.1025845

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